Comments on: 12 Rules For Marriage http://donklephant.com/2006/09/07/12-rules-for-marriage/ Big Teeth. Huge Ass. Surprisingly Reasonable. Sun, 22 Nov 2009 10:53:41 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: probligo http://donklephant.com/2006/09/07/12-rules-for-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-72023 probligo Sat, 09 Sep 2006 09:53:25 +0000 http://donklephant.com/2006/09/07/12-rules-for-marriage/#comment-72023 Partnerships require two, not one. Give before taking. Listen before talking. Understand before reacting. Partnerships require two, not one.

Give before taking.

Listen before talking.

Understand before reacting.

]]> By: TM Lutas http://donklephant.com/2006/09/07/12-rules-for-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-71689 TM Lutas Fri, 08 Sep 2006 21:39:07 +0000 http://donklephant.com/2006/09/07/12-rules-for-marriage/#comment-71689 Allah - Perhaps a bit of christian counterpoint might be in order to respond to your islamic advice. I hope I do not offend. Husbands must be as Christ for their wives which means that for the obedience that is our due, we must be willing to sacrifice all, to the point of losing our life for our wife. If one is not willing to embrace one's own duty (to sacrifice all), how can it be just to expect a wife to one sidedly hold to her own duty (to obey)? When you're willing to be crucified to uphold and protect your wife, I don't think that her obedience is going to be much of an issue. But how many men deserve to be obeyed? Allah – Perhaps a bit of christian counterpoint might be in order to respond to your islamic advice. I hope I do not offend.

Husbands must be as Christ for their wives which means that for the obedience that is our due, we must be willing to sacrifice all, to the point of losing our life for our wife. If one is not willing to embrace one’s own duty (to sacrifice all), how can it be just to expect a wife to one sidedly hold to her own duty (to obey)? When you’re willing to be crucified to uphold and protect your wife, I don’t think that her obedience is going to be much of an issue. But how many men deserve to be obeyed?

]]> By: Allah http://donklephant.com/2006/09/07/12-rules-for-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-71572 Allah Fri, 08 Sep 2006 16:42:58 +0000 http://donklephant.com/2006/09/07/12-rules-for-marriage/#comment-71572 Remember that men always have the authority over women, because God has made them superior to the other. Good wives are obedient to their husbands while maintaining public humility. Rebellious and disobedient wives should be admonished and banished from their beds and beaten. Once they obey their husbands again, no further action should be taken. Remember that men always have the authority over women, because God has made them superior to the other. Good wives are obedient to their husbands while maintaining public humility. Rebellious and disobedient wives should be admonished and banished from their beds and beaten. Once they obey their husbands again, no further action should be taken.

]]> By: BrianOfAtlanta http://donklephant.com/2006/09/07/12-rules-for-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-71555 BrianOfAtlanta Fri, 08 Sep 2006 14:25:51 +0000 http://donklephant.com/2006/09/07/12-rules-for-marriage/#comment-71555 A corollary to #7, useful for husbands in the delivery room: "The doctor may be an expert on expecting mothers, but remember that you're the expert on *this* expecting mother!" In general, remember to stand up for each others' best interests when the other party is unable to, especially in medical situations. A corollary to #7, useful for husbands in the delivery room:

“The doctor may be an expert on expecting mothers, but remember that you’re the expert on *this* expecting mother!”

In general, remember to stand up for each others’ best interests when the other party is unable to, especially in medical situations.

]]> By: amba http://donklephant.com/2006/09/07/12-rules-for-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-71373 amba Fri, 08 Sep 2006 03:56:14 +0000 http://donklephant.com/2006/09/07/12-rules-for-marriage/#comment-71373 #2 is cribbed, knowingly or not, from <a href="http://www.sfgoth.com/~immanis/rilke/letter7.html" rel="nofollow">Rainer Maria Rilke's Letters to a Young Poet</a>: "the love that consists in this: the two solitudes protect and border and greet each other." The original is worth reading. #2 is cribbed, knowingly or not, from Rainer Maria Rilke’s Letters to a Young Poet: “the love that consists in this: the two solitudes protect and border and greet each other.” The original is worth reading.

]]> By: Stephen http://donklephant.com/2006/09/07/12-rules-for-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-71345 Stephen Fri, 08 Sep 2006 02:46:45 +0000 http://donklephant.com/2006/09/07/12-rules-for-marriage/#comment-71345 Learn to pick your battles. It isn't necessary to come out the victor in every disagreement. Save your strength for the really important battles: the ones that matter. Some battles that might be winnable aren't really worth fighting in the first place due to collateral damage. Cuddle. A lot. My wife and I cuddle before getting up in the morning and before going to sleep at night. It helps somehow. Play to each others' strengths. She budgets and pays the bills, and I balance the checkbook. It all meshes. Merge the checking accounts. Nothing builds unity like a single checking account. Some may disagree, but marriage is a partnership, right? Control a sharp tongue. Hurtful things said in anger last for a very long time. It is far easier to forgive than to forget. Don't say it in the first place. Learn to pick your battles. It isn’t necessary to come out the victor in every disagreement. Save your strength for the really important battles: the ones that matter. Some battles that might be winnable aren’t really worth fighting in the first place due to collateral damage.
Cuddle. A lot. My wife and I cuddle before getting up in the morning and before going to sleep at night. It helps somehow.
Play to each others’ strengths. She budgets and pays the bills, and I balance the checkbook. It all meshes.
Merge the checking accounts. Nothing builds unity like a single checking account. Some may disagree, but marriage is a partnership, right?
Control a sharp tongue. Hurtful things said in anger last for a very long time. It is far easier to forgive than to forget. Don’t say it in the first place.

]]> By: Walrus http://donklephant.com/2006/09/07/12-rules-for-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-71277 Walrus Thu, 07 Sep 2006 21:47:05 +0000 http://donklephant.com/2006/09/07/12-rules-for-marriage/#comment-71277 Love your spouse when he/she is not lovable. You are going to need them to return the favour. Giggle together. Someday you are going to realize that you didn't marry the person you thought you did. Learn to love the person you actually did marry. Love your spouse when he/she is not lovable. You are going to need them to return the favour.

Giggle together.

Someday you are going to realize that you didn’t marry the person you thought you did. Learn to love the person you actually did marry.

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